Hi Bec - my name is Jacqui and I sat next to you at Bec's b'day dinner on Saturday night (I had the crappy chicken pastry thing)!!
I have read your blog with great sadness and so know where you are right now.
My husband Steve and I rode this nightmare Infertility rollercoasater for nearly 4 years. We endured 4 Egg Collections, 1 Hyper Stimulation and 13 Embryo Transfers (total of 21 embryos) to finally achieve our beautiful young son, Tane who was 4 in February (we used ICSI each time).
Now, all the pain, depression and anguish seem like a distant memory. What seemed terminal at the time, is now non existent.
My best advice to you is to hang in there. Your time will come, maybe not today, maybe not next month, but it will eventually come. You are only 24 and have plenty of time, so try not to panic. I was 31 when we started - then its time to panic!!
Dont be too sold on Fresh transfers - I think the jury is still out on which one is best - Tane was from a frozen transfer and many of my friends who were successful were from frozen - your body has been to hell and back and all druged up, so some time to recover before transplant has to be a good thing.
I have everything crossed for you and your husband and look forward to following you right through to your pregnancy and birth.
I'll always remember my dad telling me "It's like going to the Casino - if you play enough hands, youll eventually win one"!!
Take Care Bec & try to stay positive. For you there will be a next time.
This is fucked. Even more fucked because I want this so badly for you and Murray. If I'm never a mummy then I'd like to be a blog/fellow IFer auntie.
Jacs is right, you are so young. It is utterly heartbreaking and soul crushing for you to endure, but time is on your side (unlike me, at 36 and with a marriage that sucks right now).
No matter what happens, I will always be here for you and wishing you and Murray every success.
I was so sure this one would be your one... so sorry Bec :( We'll get em next time!
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AaRRRGGGggggggggHHHHhh.. !!! Why does shit stuff happen to wonderful people..
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Missy
Oh no! I am so sorry Bec. To have another cancelled cycle completely sucks. What does your doctor say? Can he try another protocol?
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ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to read this! be good to yourself as you grieve this lost cycle. you must be BEYOND frustrated.
ReplyDeleteHi Bec - my name is Jacqui and I sat next to you at Bec's b'day dinner on Saturday night (I had the crappy chicken pastry thing)!!
ReplyDeleteI have read your blog with great sadness and so know where you are right now.
My husband Steve and I rode this nightmare Infertility rollercoasater for nearly 4 years. We endured 4 Egg Collections, 1 Hyper Stimulation and 13 Embryo Transfers (total of 21 embryos) to finally achieve our beautiful young son, Tane who was 4 in February (we used ICSI each time).
Now, all the pain, depression and anguish seem like a distant memory. What seemed terminal at the time, is now non existent.
My best advice to you is to hang in there. Your time will come, maybe not today, maybe not next month, but it will eventually come. You are only 24 and have plenty of time, so try not to panic. I was 31 when we started - then its time to panic!!
Dont be too sold on Fresh transfers - I think the jury is still out on which one is best - Tane was from a frozen transfer and many of my friends who were successful were from frozen - your body has been to hell and back and all druged up, so some time to recover before transplant has to be a good thing.
I have everything crossed for you and your husband and look forward to following you right through to your pregnancy and birth.
I'll always remember my dad telling me "It's like going to the Casino - if you play enough hands, youll eventually win one"!!
Take Care Bec & try to stay positive. For you there will be a next time.
Jacs xo
This is fucked. Even more fucked because I want this so badly for you and Murray. If I'm never a mummy then I'd like to be a blog/fellow IFer auntie.
ReplyDeleteJacs is right, you are so young. It is utterly heartbreaking and soul crushing for you to endure, but time is on your side (unlike me, at 36 and with a marriage that sucks right now).
No matter what happens, I will always be here for you and wishing you and Murray every success.
Love, Mrs J xo
So sorry Bec!
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