You are a wonderful and generous person Bec, if he was my brother I'd leave him in jail. You have to do what you feel is right, but it is also really important to preserve your own health and sanity, so please don't feel that you have to stretch yourself in every direction to please other people and keep the peace. xoxo
You really don't need this extra stress on top of everything you've been going through. I know he's family, but at one point you really have to look after yourself. It's not selfish, it's self preservation. I know easier said than done...I have brothers too!
And any friend who's going to walk away from a friendship because your 'extended' family is dramatic, is really not a friend. I hope your brother does step up to the plate and make good on his bail arrangements. Best Wishes!
As for the drama and troubles in your life scaring friends off, if they aren't willing to be there through the bad times, then they aren't friends in the first place.
I make no apologies for what I'm going through and trying to deal with at the minute, I've been to hell and am currently trying to claw my way back, I've discovered very quickly who my friends are and who they aren't, it sucks but thats life, if they won't stand by me during the times I really need them, then fuck em I don't want nor need them in my life.
I'm there for my friends no matter what, good times and bad and so I expect the same back.
You will ALWAYS have an ear to listen to you from me hon.
I don't know you, but I found your blog when I was googling for information about IVM. I have read about some of your heartbreaking experiences and I can more than relate. My husband and I have been trying for a baby for almost 3 years now and have been on a similar emotional rollercoaster. We did our first cycle of IVF last march and I ended up hyperstimulating badly. I was in the hospital for 9 days and ended up having every complication other than a stroke. Things were so bad, in fact, that I am a legend at the clinic and my doctor told me that I should never attempt IVF again. They collected 41 eggs, 35 of which were mature and we ended up with 21 embyros. We decided to grow them to day 5 and only 7 survived. We did out first embryo transfer last september- thawed 3 and transferred the 2 that survived. I didn't get pregnant, so we did a second transfer 2 weeks ago, which again did not work. We have 2 embryos left, but I am feeling fairly disheartened. We are looking seriously into IVM now since it appears that IVF may not work out for us. Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you guys the best of luck in the upcoming months. L.
You are a wonderful and generous person Bec, if he was my brother I'd leave him in jail. You have to do what you feel is right, but it is also really important to preserve your own health and sanity, so please don't feel that you have to stretch yourself in every direction to please other people and keep the peace. xoxo
ReplyDeleteYou really don't need this extra stress on top of everything you've been going through. I know he's family, but at one point you really have to look after yourself. It's not selfish, it's self preservation. I know easier said than done...I have brothers too!
ReplyDeleteAnd any friend who's going to walk away from a friendship because your 'extended' family is dramatic, is really not a friend. I hope your brother does step up to the plate and make good on his bail arrangements. Best Wishes!
Big hugs Bec.
ReplyDeleteAs for the drama and troubles in your life scaring friends off, if they aren't willing to be there through the bad times, then they aren't friends in the first place.
I make no apologies for what I'm going through and trying to deal with at the minute, I've been to hell and am currently trying to claw my way back, I've discovered very quickly who my friends are and who they aren't, it sucks but thats life, if they won't stand by me during the times I really need them, then fuck em I don't want nor need them in my life.
I'm there for my friends no matter what, good times and bad and so I expect the same back.
You will ALWAYS have an ear to listen to you from me hon.
xxx
Oh Bec, I can only imagine what you're going through. What I do know is that you're a wonderful sister and an a good friend. Please don't doubt that!
ReplyDeleteSending you big hugs!
Hi Rebecca,
ReplyDeleteI don't know you, but I found your blog when I was googling for information about IVM. I have read about some of your heartbreaking experiences and I can more than relate. My husband and I have been trying for a baby for almost 3 years now and have been on a similar emotional rollercoaster. We did our first cycle of IVF last march and I ended up hyperstimulating badly. I was in the hospital for 9 days and ended up having every complication other than a stroke. Things were so bad, in fact, that I am a legend at the clinic and my doctor told me that I should never attempt IVF again. They collected 41 eggs, 35 of which were mature and we ended up with 21 embyros. We decided to grow them to day 5 and only 7 survived. We did out first embryo transfer last september- thawed 3 and transferred the 2 that survived. I didn't get pregnant, so we did a second transfer 2 weeks ago, which again did not work. We have 2 embryos left, but I am feeling fairly disheartened. We are looking seriously into IVM now since it appears that IVF may not work out for us.
Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you guys the best of luck in the upcoming months.
L.